Early as a child, you were taught that people surround you, love you and care for you, which give you a comfort that you belong in a true home and you could always turn to these people for help. By the time you gain consciousness and receive formal education, you are then taught to be independent. Being independent means taking on responsibilities. At this time, you still feel weak to fulfil responsibilities because it is not too fun to fulfil them. But as you grow older, your power and influence grows along with the fulfilment of responsibilities you’ve achieved.
By the time you’re a young adult, you want to influence others into doing things your way because you understand that your previous works with your responsibilities had turned out better than other people. You can easily influence people who are now your responsibility.
As your power grows, so does your influence and your capability to control people. Controlling now becomes a passion as you expand the produce you create with your upgraded capabilities. While it would be essential in life to have a certain amount of power, influence and capability to control, one must not want to control everything.
When you try to control everything, you become conscious of things that you do not want to face. When you fail one responsibility, you fail an entire arm of control, and an entire group of people, which can lead to grave consequences, unless you are capable.
When you try to control everything, it will become impossible for you to be truly happy. You will have to ensure that those under your control are happy. Your influence could only give you partial relief and happiness, but never the kind of happiness of fulfilment that you are looking for.