About Getting Rich and Perspective

I’m a guy who just does my job well and, after learning from some people the importance of things that do not seem important at this time, I’m all first-hand experience on almost anything I could get my hands on. I’ve tried wakeboarding and skiing, and after a few painful attempts, I performed as effective as I wanted myself on the first try.

It was in these vacations I met a guy who talked to me about getting rich and what I need to do to reach it.

“You’ll need to work hard for better income by finding a job you want.”

I told him that that would take such great amounts of time.

“You will have all the time to spend your riches in the future.”

But then, I realized, we will miss all the moments that time is giving us in the present by wasting away in the future. Like before, I was always afraid of the future that I prepared a meticulous plan for it, when I realized I missed out on a lot of things in life. I missed my son’s birthday, I missed my wife’s anniversary, all because I wanted to be rich and give my family the life they deserve when all they needed was my company and my involvement in their lives.

Distance serves a purpose because it allows one to be him or herself, but distancing yourself selfishly for goals that you find satisfaction will affect your relationships with other people and yourself. You might even ask yourself why you’re doing it.

Luxury is not everything in life. It was that case before for me. Today, I live for what I can give my family. Happiness is a choice based on your perspective and looking if the glass is half-empty or half-full.

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Never Worry About the Future

My parents kept reminding me during high school that they forbid relationships with girls because I need to focus on my studying, which is the bridge to my future. I understood this and followed wholeheartedly. At that time, I didn’t worry about the future because I was prone to my emotions. However, as I learned to have more responsibilities, such as saving my money for a secret date, I learned that it had consequences, such as lacking money to spend for some videogames. This is how puppy love relationships easily break down.

Ever since I learned that high grades dictated your possible future in college, I continued to worry often. I drove myself to study hard and focus on my studies. I joined extra-curricular activities to put on my resume so that companies will notice me. I did all I can and I reaped results graduating at the top of my class.

But then, I was worried about work right now. I’m never getting a higher position in my work and instead some two-bit manager got the position. I must admit he is doing his job, but he lacks the attention to details that I have. Or maybe he does more than I care to admit.

Over time, I’ve come to respect him because he seems carefree or aloof, but he gets the job done. It dawned in me that employees only want results regardless of the methods of the employees.

I asked him what was his secret in giving good results, results I couldn’t have hoped for even if I tried all I can. He said that it was because he lived in the present. He told me that he never worries, he just does all he can.

That’s when I understood that I should never worry about the future. I have calculated every probability possible to help me get a job and a good salary, but I never put myself at a highly incalculable and uncontrollable risk like he did. But then, I limit myself with my abilities if I worry about the future.

So I drank more bottles with him in jovial conversation.

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Blaming Yourself: Its Necessity and When Should You Blame Yourself

Self-evaluation is an exercise that any human learns regarding his or her performance in certain situations. This helped many professionals improve on their craft and procedures, which continue to contribute to the academe that teaches about their professional positions. It has benefits in the professional world and it also has its benefits towards self-improvement and your existence.

When you try too hard, you often end up blaming yourself for your shortcomings namely for not having done or prepared enough. But it is not always your fault.

The best way to blame yourself is to look at the things you failed at, specifically the things that you could control. You could control your preparations. After your self-preparations, ask yourself if you had actually given your best shot in preparations. Then accept the fact that you could still lose despite your preparations. Nothing is certain especially in the professional world.

You should never blame yourself for the problems others had actually brought upon themselves. While the statement is one of indifference, only help them if they asked you to help, or if you are truly concerned about their situation. However, if it is indeed your fault, then blame yourself and make it up to the person without compromising or damaging your own well-being.

Self-blame is important to evaluate the way one interacts and works with people, and the way you learn from life. People make mistakes and they will learn faster if they accept their mistakes by taking the blame properly.

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Never Throw in the Towel Too Early

You are in the middle of a very effective day. You told yourself that from the morning until the evening, you would concentrate on making all your produce as high quality and be as effective as you can. As you reach the last three hours of your shift, you suddenly ask yourself why you are doing such a heroic and tiring task. Then you contemplate on giving up while you were ahead.

This is not just the trouble of one person working. Imagine yourself digging a hole looking for a treasure. You had gone digging for so long and so deep and followed all instructions carefully. However, the best of you gets you to quit. From a bigger point of view, you were actually just inches away from the treasure chest you were looking for. You could have gotten it if you had only pushed for just a few more.

However, nobody knows if you are actually nearly ending your objective. It just gets to you if you continue to work hard. If you continue to be diligent in doing your work and falling in love with the process of your work, no matter how routine, you will never feel tired and you will continue to feel satisfied about your duty.

Never throw in the towel too early. You might still have some fight left in you, which can earn you something worth all your efforts.

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Why You Should Not Want to Control Everything

Early as a child, you were taught that people surround you, love you and care for you, which give you a comfort that you belong in a true home and you could always turn to these people for help. By the time you gain consciousness and receive formal education, you are then taught to be independent. Being independent means taking on responsibilities. At this time, you still feel weak to fulfil responsibilities because it is not too fun to fulfil them. But as you grow older, your power and influence grows along with the fulfilment of responsibilities you’ve achieved.

By the time you’re a young adult, you want to influence others into doing things your way because you understand that your previous works with your responsibilities had turned out better than other people. You can easily influence people who are now your responsibility.

As your power grows, so does your influence and your capability to control people. Controlling now becomes a passion as you expand the produce you create with your upgraded capabilities. While it would be essential in life to have a certain amount of power, influence and capability to control, one must not want to control everything.

When you try to control everything, you become conscious of things that you do not want to face. When you fail one responsibility, you fail an entire arm of control, and an entire group of people, which can lead to grave consequences, unless you are capable.

When you try to control everything, it will become impossible for you to be truly happy. You will have to ensure that those under your control are happy. Your influence could only give you partial relief and happiness, but never the kind of happiness of fulfilment that you are looking for.

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Why Struggles are Necessary Daily

Negative energy is something most people could get every morning or at any time during the day following a certain mishap or a problem in schedule or other responsibilities. Negative energy is undesirable because it causes strain, but it can actually be necessary.

Why other people do not look for heaven is because convenience is what makes a human dull. If you refuse to work out your body with exercise (which means to struggle lifting weights and running courses) you will deteriorate physically. The same is when you refuse to train yourself to think properly, to think hard and to see things with logic; your thinking becomes fuzzy and your response time becomes bad.

Daily struggles give you a chance to develop man’s greatest ability, resilience. Being able to bounce back can help you attain your goals effectively. However, you’ll need to go through a lot of struggle before you master improvisation.

Daily struggles also teach you to lengthen your patience and coping with your excess frustration without hurting other people. It is only through a struggle that one develops the necessary skills.

Limitations are also part of the cycle. Nobody knows their limit until they hit it and they struggle to raise it through struggle.

Life is a series of struggles designed to make one as strong as they can be.

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Why Inequality is Something Necessary

Most people understand the principles of Yin Yang; finding the right kind of balance in one’s life means dealing with both positive and negative energies accordingly. In the world, inequality is a constant and the only way to achieve stability is through the co-existence of these two factors without weighing so much on the each side.

This principle makes it true that inequality is something necessary. It might sound disturbing or even outrageous, but some people will always die and some will always live. Some people will get what they want and some will not. Some people are made to be stronger than others, but some have strengths in other areas.

This particular idea of inequality is what brings color and interesting things in the world today. From your hyper and control-freak superior to your loving girlfriend or wife, you find a contrast and comparison, which helps you appreciate certain things in life.

For artists, the necessity of negativity is a good way to produce self-expression. In this way, they could experience both states of mind, which allows them to write strongly-felt songs that people in the same state could relate to in all honesty.

Inequality is not always a bad thing. However, preventing a bad thing is the natural nature of a human bound by morales, which makes the world all the more interesting.

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Artificial Need and the Things You Actually Need

Why many radicals advise you to stay away from your television set is because television is indeed a powerful tool that conveys a great message. Today’s television had progressed and the quality of segments and programs has improved, to the benefit of producers and investors. Television fulfils a certain need: entertainment. Television also gives you more reasons to need other things.

TV advertisements expose seeming “truths” about many things. For example, a dishwashing company might advertise that based on their studies, a normal detergent cannot handle removing some more bacteria and viruses from dishes. Then they present to you that their product has an improved or added ingredient that helps in removing such things.

Advertisements present to you an artificial need. Artificial needs are things that are both true and untrue at the same time because you have no means of proving it, yet you only have the choice to believe it

The television and media portrays what most people accept as something that they need, which allows many to fit in and become “normal” as society deems them to be. However, you are blinded in knowing about the things you actually deem that you need.

Remember, you do not need so many things in life. Assessing what you need, such as food, water, shelter, sanitation and information is the basic needs of man. Anything more is an artificial creation that could either make or unmake a person.

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When You Become Something You Hate

Humans are natural idealists. Once given an environment, a person will try to find alternatives to that environment and the most impossible solutions are left only to fantasies, and dreams. An idea allows a person to form their own function and identify the things that they hate the most and the person that they want not to become.

Part of a person’s journey to the inevitable is that it is highly probable that they become something that they don’t really want to be. To become what you hate is the biggest irony a person can face, and also one of the most painful experiences in life.

However, because ideals are only moulds, one should think that being something you hate is not bad. Instead, it is a learning experience. When you become what you hate, you learn to explore the extent of the damage you could do to yourself. After you realize truly that what you hate the most is something that you really will damn the most for the rest of your life, you learn to pick yourself up and recover into a person that you really are.

Experience teaches people many things about themselves, and when you become something you hate, this is no exception to the learning experience. However, like all things in life, it is always important that you balance everything and learn from everything you do and experience on a daily basis.

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Ideas are Only External Moulds

Literature, political satire and even philosophy have always criticised how society looks like from the eyes of the normal man. Most works of art depict a world that serves as an escape by making imagination become real through different methods of expression. Poetry and story-writing transports their audiences and sends them through times that once existed, or never at all existed but only in the mind of a man. However, the common denominator of all of them is that they only present ideas.

Ideas, and ideals are very important for humanity. They serve as the reference point; a dream that one can achieve through diligence and perseverance. Ideas are very much implanted by the people who serve as your mentors: Your parents, your peers and your superiors. However, these are only external suggestions to your being.

Even philosophy, which teaches the person about him or herself more deeply as much as any religion can, is an external mould in itself. You might get absorbed by Nietzche’s undying study of the true evil inside humanity, or be empowered to the endless limits of your ability and skills as a man by objectivism, but in the end, it is you who decides what you truly are.

Moulds allow people to form themselves to fit in society. Moulds are a collection of ideas, ideals and beliefs that one lives by, but in the end, it is the moulded who decides if it is time he or she got a new mould, a new set of ideas. A new set of values that would make them become a better person for themselves and people they care about.

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